I share many things about myself. Many things stretching way over the line of TMI. Really I am an open book. I can keep others secrets but my own… I really don’t have any.
Except when it comes to naming our babies.
My husband and I chose the baby name secret path after hearing friends tell us of their unfortunate conversation with their family when they revealed the name of their soon to be born son.
His name is fine and completely perfect for him but at a time when people can feel a sense of their possible influence, they may just grab it and run.
See a baby still sitting happily inside their mother’s womb does not, really, have a confirmed name. As much as you could be set on ‘Martha’ there is still nothing set in stone. It is a grey area where people can give their straight up opinion. They are not looking at the child, they can’t see the child. You have just given them a name and they can’t help but express their opinion, be it vocally or just in their facial expression.
It could be as small as a one-sided eye squint. You know, kind of like when someone is deciding if that is just some internal wind action or it is time to make haste to the bathroom.
Those that have the facials don’t often say much out loud but really they have said it all anyway.
To avoid others opinions and comments, we just don’t tell.
We don’t even release prospective names unless they are completely wiped off the table.
Never will a normal person look at a newborn baby and say something like “oh how cute, shit name though!” or “look at those cheeks, Alfred really doesn’t suit him”.
Our way of thinking is shared by many a celebrity too.
- Nicolas Cage
- Steven Spielberg
- Frank Zappa
- Sylvester Stallone
All keen for some hush baby naming. How do I know this…
- Diva Thin Muffin
- Sage Moonblood
Their children’s names.
No one would have been aware of these prospective labels. Surely not. These names could not have been chosen by anyone more than their creators.
Steven, Sly and pals are smart guys. Don’t want an opinion, don’t tell the story.
Imagine the squinty faces all around when sharing those names! “Meet Diva Thin Muffin!”
When we had named Ari and he was still internally wrapped I made many slip ups. Dropping his name into conversations left right and centre because that was his name and it was definite. Lucky I mainly did it when people weren’t listening to me anyway. My Mum thought I had said Harry and I was told she even had a conversation with my Dad about how sensible the name was.
I wouldn’t know any different now if my parents weren’t fans of the name Ari because they were not corrected until he was born. Announcing the name of a baby in the external world, that is the baby’s name and no one is going to suggest otherwise.
Though I do think they love his name and have ever had any issues.
Once again, this little girl’s name is a secret. But it has been a lot easier this time around because nothing is really set in stone.
Baby ain’t got a name!
Girl’s names are hard! Do you think? I do.
I havent leaked any names because I can’t be sure. The only names we have mentioned to people are ones that have been completely denied.
I love Frankie (can’t because it is a family name), Bowie (initials would be BOG) and Tora (can’t get “Tor’a a new one!” out of my head).
Her name will finally come to us when it has to and it will be perfect.
Doesn’t matter anyway, no one will tell us any different!
Did you have trouble picking names for your kids?
Ever heard a name that made you vomit a little?
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