Has Easter been kind to you? Have you made it through your chocolate stash yet? I am enjoying a secret stash of Milky Bars hidden in the back of the fridge. Yum!
The Guest Post series rolls on, I hope you are enjoying meeting new bloggers, seeing a few of your favourites, and overall reading lots of great posts.
Today I would like to introduce Cathy from Said With a Smile. Cathy is a fellow FIFO wife, Mama and everything in between. She talks today about adjusting to parenthood and circus acts.
If you ever wondered what it would be like to run away with the circus, might I suggest you try being a parent?
Having recently rejoined the workforce as a new mother, I have to say I have never felt the need to have more limbs as I do right now. Why can’t I hold the baby, respond to a work email, warm his bottle, do a load of washing, and walk the dog at the same time? I sure can’t seem to fit it all in one evening, so what else is a person to do?
Being a parent is about finding yourself doing one thing, while thinking about all the other things you should be doing at the same time (and then forgetting about those things when you have a second free). It is… creating a perpetual to-do list that you know will only make you feel useless when you can never get it all done. It is… multitasking at a level that you never thought possible. It is… forever feeling like your running late for something (because you probably are). It is… wrangling together all the goods and shackles needed just to leave the house, with skills reminiscent of a great Australian drover. It is… being a manager, a colleague and a subordinate, all to the same tiny people. It is… being a parent, while still being a wife, daughter, sister and friend to all the other important people in your life. Being a parent is learning to juggle.
If every stage of a person’s life is represented by the walking through a metaphorical door, than parenting is a phase where you enter the big tent and there’s no slipping out for more popcorn. And at this circus… you’re not an entertained observer, you’re part of the Act. There’s no dress rehearsal or time to practice. You’re on stage and you have to perform. The show must go on and the show needs you. It doesn’t matter that you’ve never soothed a baby before, it’s time to learn on the job and the audience is waiting. How often do they need to eat? And how much? You can’t be afraid to fall off the trapeze, you won’t fall too far. Just dust yourself off and keep going. Make a mistake? No worries! This audience won’t leave. They came here to see you and their eyes won’t be swayed. They don’t know this is your first time and that you’re nervous as hell. It doesn’t matter to them. They need you.
No I know that sounds scary and believe me, it is. But performing in this show will also bring you great joy. As the audience laughs at your antics and takes it all in, you’ll realise how much you just want to do a good job for them. Like any good clown, the good times will spur you on and before you know it, you’ll forget you have no idea what you’re doing and you’ll go with your instincts. If they need you to walk the tightrope, you’ll find yourself giving it a go without second thought and then all of a sudden you’ll be on the other side.
I’m often asked why my husband and I waited as long as we did to have a child and my answer is simple. We were scared. We’d never done it before and we didn’t know if we’d be any good at it. Looking back, that’s the craziest excuse in the world. We would never have left the womb ourselves if we didn’t want to do anything we hadn’t done before. Experiencing new things is exactly what life’s about. I watch the clowns juggle and I think ‘wouldn’t that be a cool party trick’ but it never really occurred to me that I could just give it a go and learn it. If you drop a few balls while you’re finding your feet, just pick ‘em back up and keep going!
Hi, I’m Cathy from Said With A Smile.
Take one part mother and mix with one part FIFO wife. Add a dash of full-time employee and sprinkle of online/distance student. Measure out a good number of wonderful friends, add a loving family. Insert high ambitions with entrepreneurial tendencies. Combine with well marinated humour. Flavour lightly with sarcasm. Cook on a medium heat for 30 years…
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