One day in late November I was woken by the kids and started our normal morning milk, breakfast, dressed shuffle. This morning though, after I had sorted out the kids, I made myself a green smoothie, stole 10 minutes of time in my bedroom to meditate, took my morning flower essences and vitamins and thought to myself…
WTF! How did that happen?!
All these things I had introduced to my mornings but never in whole and complete succession! Nor did they need to be. I had shocked myself that this was my morning.
Don’t fret, the kids were fine. A well-timed Wiggles episode was their alibi.
It hasn’t happened again nor does it necessary have to. Any of these things can help make me feel good individually. Kick start my day in the right direction.
Imagine if I could steal 15 minutes of stretching time too or even dedicate that time to my new book!
11 months ago I had just had my second child, my husband was working a fly in/fly out roster (he still does) and I was also chasing my nearly 3-year-old, nearly toilet trained son. While my husband was away there was no “me” in the mix. I was just a boobs out, feeding, cleaning, dealing machine.
I had a creative outlet but that was beginning to feel like a chore too. I had no idea what was wrong with me (duh!). I was burning the candle at both ends and my health; both physically and mentally was paying for it.
Changes had to be made and once I was out of the newborn stage with my baby girl I began introducing different practices into my days that rebooted me. I began taking care of myself.
Gosh, I still have some very shit days but my dealing capabilities are far better.
Do I do these things every day? Hell no! Any parent knows you have to roll with the punches.
Actually no, I hugely struggled with learning this after having kids. It was life Jim, but not as I knew it!
I wanted to bring the Mummy Soul Sessions to Calm to Conniption in the effort of sharing some of the practices, products and ideas that have really helped turn around my mental dealing capabilities plus my overall health with my readers. I really hope they can help someone else. Over the coming months, the sessions will include interviews with health professionals and other mothers sharing their practices in self-care.
By no means am I an expert health professional and there are a host of others out there that are, I am just a mum trying to keep her spirit in a pile of dirty nappies and Duplo and I am sure there are many of you out there in the same boat.
It took me a long time, actually longer than just 11 months to get that I am worthy and entitled to want to be something more than Mum. No matter what floats your boat you need to be in the right frame of mind to chase it.
This is why the Mummy Soul Sessions are part of me.
Just last week I come across Willow Smith interviewing her mother Jada Pinkett-Smith (through The Organised Housewife). Willow asks “How hard is it being a wife and mother?” Jada’s answer is not only eloquent and concise but also hosts some of the best eyebrow-raising I have ever seen.
Seriously though, I couldn’t type better words on why we as parents we must look after ourselves and why creating your own mummy soul session is important.
Jada says, “Being a wife and a mother is probably one of the most extraordinary experiences and the most fulfilling experiences in my life. But at the same time, it has been very difficult to balance the things that I want to do and have the freedoms that I want to have and also being responsible for you, and your brothers and your father. And I’m constantly, every day, trying to figure out that balance.”
My first thought was, “I’m not alone!”
Keep clarity in your days and try to not lose sight of your dreams, whatever they may be.
Next week I am going to share some of my favourite stolen time meditations. Until then join me on Instagram or Facebook and share what you do to take time out for you in your day with #mummysoulsessions.
Fit your oxygen mask lovely.
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