Living the FIFO life can have you reevaluating your circumstances more often than some. Trust me when I say that I would have the conversation with myself monthly on whether we are doing the right thing or not.
Currently, we are. The pros still outweigh the cons.
In saying that, to keep things as balanced as possible when the Mr isn’t at home, there are a few things I do to reboot myself for another round of solo parenting. Kind of like getting all my ducks in a row so I am in a good mental space before I am outnumbered by the children for a fortnight.
Let me start off by saying that all Chiropractors are NOT created equal. I have chatted about that before.
My chiropractor now is basically my spinal soul mate. I will never give her up. My appointments with her far from just a “cracking”. She reviews all the things going on in my life (e.g. coughing, illness, sick kids, orthodontist appointments, extra work at my desk) and treats me accordingly as well as offering advice for supplements, exercises and other things I should be doing to get on track.
To say I love my chiro would be an understatement. She is a requirement in my life to keep my body ticking away nicely.
2. Solo grocery shopping
Boring! I know right, but the key word here is SOLO.
Grocery shopping is a necessity if I am going to kick off my fortnight while the husband is away right. Filling my kitchen with fruit and vegetables plus good meats will keep me out of my freezer to reach for the sausage rolls, for a little while anyway.
But, like I said, SOLO! No one has the cash or time to hit up a day spa once a month. I find sometimes just getting to a cafe for a relaxed meal sans kids is easy to put off with other things to do. Grocery shopping has to be done and actually kicks ass doing it by yourself. I take my time. I read labels. I flick through magazines (yep, that’s me in the magazine aisle) and I sing along to Coles radio.
It’s my time while I’m getting shit done.
3. Buy something that reminds me I’m an adult
Mostly it is a magazine. Sometimes it is new skin care or make-up. Just something that has nothing to do with children that I can use or read.
I like to have a magazine on my kitchen bench. Whatever is currently tickling my fancy. Possibly Real Living, maybe Frankie, sometimes Home Beautiful, often The Collective. Something that makes me feel like a grown up that I can flick through a page or two when I get the chance. In a world full of kid-chatter, it is a nice moment of anti-kid-ness when you are the only adult in the house.
I buy a magazine so it is fresh and new ready for me to ogle all the pretties.
OK, that last line could easily fall in the gutter but I’m talking homeware, peeps!
4. Assess the mindset
Probably the most important thing I do about four days before the Mr flys out to work is assess my mindset.
Do I need anything to fill my cup to get me through the next two weeks?
By doing this I know that I am starting from an awesome point. I am feeling positive and capable. I am not in need of any extra downtime. My cup runneth over!
Sometimes when I assess I realise I’m not ready to do the solo parenting stint yet and I will plan to do the things I need to get me to that good mental space before he goes. It is so important for me to do this around 4 days out from fly-out, so I can do the things I need without the panic of having no time left.
Usually, it is just letting the Mr know that I am wanting some uninterrupted me time and he is all over it. I can hide away and have a shower without anyone traipsing in to tell me what sea-creature was on the Octonauts. I give myself a little pampering and emerge when I am ready. Something small but significant to get me to a place where I can take on anything that is thrown at me (literally and figuratively) for another stint of solo parenting.
What do you do to reboot or refresh yourself?
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